Learning how to control emotion is important for many reasons. If you can’t, you could be doomed to living a life full of pain. If you seem to not have control of your emotions at times I believe these simple techniques will help.
Put a pause on your reaction.
You know the feeling when your temper starts to rise. The feeling that our blood is going to boil and you get that pressure in your head. It’s not a good feeling at all.
Maybe you sometimes get the feeling of sadness taking hold of you. Your mind is filled with darkness and suddenly you have no energy to even get up. That’s another feeling that doesn’t’t feel good.
Whenever these types of feelings start to well up inside of you, take an emotional pause.
Put the feeling on pause and ask yourself if this is emotion is an acceptable emotion for this situation. A situation like yelling at the person in the car in front of you for not stepping on the gas fast enough.
It really doesn’t do you any good because they can’t hear you. Also, It won’t make you feel better.
Practice putting a pause on an emotion before it gets too big to control.
See the bigger picture.
Before you yell at your kid for not cleaning their room for ten minutes try to see the bigger picture. Is not cleaning their room the end of the world? Of course not.
The bigger picture here is, the room still needs to be cleaned and it can still be done. Find a better disciplinary action than letting your head explode.
If you let your head explode, then you will have to deal with the emotion of feeling horrible about how you treated your kid afterwards.
There is always a bigger picture to refer to instead of losing it an initial reaction.
Redirect your thoughts.
Let’s say you get some bad news at work. Your biggest client just called to cancel the contract. Horrible news right?
Don’t look at it like it’s the worst news you ever heard. Don’t look at it like everything just fell apart. It’s definitely not the very worst thing that could happen so treat it that way.
Turn your thinking around to the positive. If possible, think okay, now I don’t have to worry about that anymore and I can use my time to figure out other things.
Try something like, now I have a different biggest client and I now I can take special care of their needs.
Always find something positive to redirect your thoughts toward.
If someone hurts you or brings you strong emotions that you don’t want find a way to forgive them. I’m not saying that you need to confront them and make sure they know you forgive them.
You need to find a way to tell yourself that you forgive them and you have to believe it. You are not really forgiving them for their sake. You are forgiving them for your sake.
Some people will hold onto a pain that someone caused them for decades. The person that did the wrong may not even remember or even know what they did wrong. In that case it just doesn’t make any sense to hold on to that feeling. Forgive them and move your emotions along.
If you can’t forgive them then you will always hold on to that emotion of pain. Don’t let that pain control your thinking and get rid of it.
Truly forgiving someone for a wrong that they did to you will set you free from that pain. If you don’t you will never be able to move on from it.
Change your state of mind.
This goes along the same lines as redirecting your thoughts. The difference here is to change how you feel.
We’ve all waken up in the morning before not feeling quite right. You wake up feeling mad or a little sad and maybe not quite sure why.
Find a way to turn it around. Get yourself happy. Do something that is good for our soul. Change your state of mind. You don’t want to be in that funk all day.
Don’t have a tough day at work and bring the tough day home to your kids. Recognize you aren’t in the correct state of mind to love them the way you should. Be grateful you have kids to come home to.
You can’t just read this and expect to know the answers or know exactly what to do. You must practice. You have to make a conscious effort every day to have the emotions that you want to have. Be willing to give it honest practice and time. Then just keep improving on what you have learned.
The best way to learn to control emotion.
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