Do you have trouble getting what you really want? You can have what you want. Start learning how to build confidence in yourself.
Having low confidence can have effects on you that you never knew about. It can keep you from really going after the things you want in life. Not just material things, but a pleasurable life as well.
Get the ball rolling in the right direction in your life. Use these strategies and you will, in time, feel a whole lot better about yourself.
Approve of yourself.
If you don’t approve of yourself other people will have a hard time approving you as well. Get out to the mindset of not being good enough for certain things.
Start telling yourself that you are good enough for what you want and go for it.
Get approval of yourself in your mind first thing when you wake up. Be reminded about it throughout the day.
Visualize the person you want to be.
You have to change the perception you have of yourself. A poor perception will lead to poor confidence.
Sometime during each day find some quiet time. Get in a relaxed state. Think about all the things you are grateful for. This will help you get in the right state of mind. You want to be as happy as you can.
Visualize the person you want to be. See yourself doing things you want to do. Try to be as specific as you can. Get all the details down. What you are wearing and who you are with. Where you are and what the weather is like.
This will trick you brain into thinking you already have what you are visualizing. Your brain will find ways to move you toward those thoughts.
It will take a lot of practice but don’t give up. You may not see any benefits right away, keep trying.
Face your fear.
By facing your fear I mean doing things that take you out of your comfort zone. You might have a fear of fire (which most of us do), but I’m not telling you to go run through fire.
Do things that you don’t normally do. Go up to someone in the grocery store and start a conversation. Just ask a simple question or make a simple statement.
Wear a silly hat one day and when people look at you funny just think they are giving you a compliment. Under your breath say thank you and move on.
If it freaks you out to spend a few extra bucks on yourself do it (within reason of course). Have the confidence that you will have no problem paying the bills next month.
The point is to get out of your comfort zone. You may even enjoy something more than you thought you would.
Be more assertive.
Don’t be a victim to not getting what you want. Don’t’ be afraid to speak up. If your friends want to go to Taco Bell, but your were really hoping for a cheeseburger then say so.
You may still end up with a nacho supreme, but you will be happier with yourself for making the statement.
I once heard that a closed mouth never gets fed. I tell my son this all the time, but I don’t think he really gets it.
If you really have to, find a class on how to be more assertive. Be aware though, you might just have to speak in front of the class. Once you do you will see that it’s no big deal.
Don’t see other people as better than you.
Don’t compare yourself to what others have. Focus on what you have. Everyone is unique and has their own set of talents.
When you wish you had what someone else has you put yourself in a box. Don’t have a limiting mindset. You will start to think of all the ways you are not good enough.
Think of them this way. If they can do it then so can I. They put their pants on the same way you do in the morning. They are not better that you.
Run your own race.
Don’t worry about what others think about you.
What others think about you is not important. What is important is what you think about you. Think positive of yourself. You imagine the person you want to be. Keep thinking the way that person thinks.
To be respectful, it doesn’t matter what someone else thinks about you because, what they think about you is none of your business.
Get more successful.
Find more success by setting smaller achievable goals. Shorter term goals. These goals being shorter will make you want to work towards them more.
When you achieve one be proud of yourself. Celebrate it and reward yourself for doing a great job. Soon all of these little success will stack up and help you to achieve much bigger goals.
Get your success juices flowing.
Do you want to build some real confidence?
If you really want to build some real confidence and make a lasting change. Take the next step.
My #1 recommendation for doing this is to get the book by Tony Robbins, “Awaken the Giant Within“.
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