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Facts About Single Parenting

Hi everyone. I would like to share some facts about single parenting. Single parenting for some, can be the hardest thing they have ever done. After all, it’s not something you do just every once in a while.

In the end, parenting in general can be the most rewarding thing in the world. It’s important not to take what you have for granted. Kids grow up so fast!

Please keep reading while I share some simple facts about single parenting.

Sometimes single parents become better parents.

My point here is in some situations a parent, while not being single, didn’t spend as much time with their kids as they do now. There can be many reasons for this. Possibly they were working too much. Maybe they weren’t very interested in their kids at the time or the kids just latched on to the other parent more.

When a parent becomes a single parent, and gets to spend a fair amount of time with their kids then they focus most of their attention towards their kids.

Sometimes the kids weren’t at the very top of their priority list until they became single. Then all of a sudden the kids are at the very top of the priority list.

If this is the case then, the kids have the full undivided attention of the parent a lot of the time.

The other parent has a different set of rules.

If the other parent has a different set of rule is can be very difficult and frustration. By these rules I mean normal day to day stuff.

Rules like having the same bedtime and how long the kids can watch TV. Kids will learn quickly how to manipulate your rules. You will hear things like “I don’t have to do that at mom’s house”.

This can get very frustrating. If you give in to the kids about what they do at the other parents house they learn quickly how to get what they want.

On the other hand, you don’t want to rule with an iron fist. If your rules are to harsh then your kids won’t want to be at your house.

My advice is to stick to your guns with the rules. If you can communicate with the other parent well then you both can probably come to a middle ground.

Loneliness

When your kids are away from you it can be lonely. Very lonely.

This is when you have to be on your guard. Don’t fall into traps of doing things you know you shouldn’t do and being a person you don’t want to be.

You have to learn how to guard your mind against anxiety and worry. Don’t let depression creep in. Keep in mind that you have to be the best parent you can be. That means being your best even if the kids aren’t around.

Figure out things to keep yourself busy. Maybe start that side gig you have been thinking about. If it’s a good one then you can pay your bills better.

Exercise! Get into better shape so you have more energy when the kids are around. My arm is completely ruined from all the countless hours of throwing a baseball! But, I love it.

Have some fun with friends. If they are true friends then you can express your loneliness to them. Real friends will be able to help you through it.

When you are at home by yourself don’t listen to Zak Brown Band “Highway 20 ride” over and over.

Other things suffer when the kids are with you.

When your kids are with you they require a lot of attention. I met an old man once that raised 3 boys. He asked me if I spend a lot of time with my son. I said “Yes, of course”. He said “Good, one thing I learned raising all those boys if, if you spend a lot of time with them, they will grow up to be just fine”.

For some reason that stuck with me and as more and more time goes by, I see how it is true.

Things that are tough to deal with when the kids are things that lack of your attention.

Your work can suffer. The boss might be psycho dialing you while you are at the dentist with your kids. Your house can look like a tornado went through it and turned t upside down.

You can forget important things like paying bills or taking a shower.

It’s tough to keep up when the kids are with you. It all can add up to a mountain of frustration. This can open the door again to you being someone you don’t want to be.

Recognize when that door is open. Don’t walk trough it and be a parent you don’t intend to be. You ave to be careful that those frustrations don’t transfer to how you parent your kids.

The reward

Remember that your kids will learn behaviors that they see you do. Think about how you want them to act and how you want them to treat others.

Try not to be a person you wouldn’t want your kids to become and you will all live a little happier.

22 thoughts on “Facts About Single Parenting”

  1. Hi Russ, I’m not a single parent, and I’m not a father, but I came across your website and your article about single parenting piqued my interest so I hope you don’t mind me reading it. Your love for your boy really came across in your article, and I’m sure that will stand you in really good stead as he grows up. I have a friend who’s partner is having trouble accessing his daughter because his ex-wife is playing dirty, and I can see the pain and frustration that creates in him, and all the time his daughter is growing up and he’s missing out on seeing her. I think the main thing for you is to make sure your son knows you love him, both with words and more importantly with deeds. I wish you both well.

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    • Teri, 

      Thank you so much for reading an commenting. I’m really sorry your friend can’t see his daughter. I believe a child needs a father as well as a mother. 

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  2. Hello there! Thanks for taking out time to write on this amazing topic. I was raised my my mom from the day I was given birth to up till this time. One fact about single parents is that they are ready to sacrifice the last for their children no matter what.

    Thanks for sharing this article, I love it!

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    • Thank you for your comment. From this I can tell your mom did her job well. Please tell her how much you appreciate her. 

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  3. There are indeed a lot of pros and cons associated with single patenting…but I know for sure that being a single parentis quite a difficult amd sometimes an unbearable task…you are faced with the responsibility of looking out for your job and your kinds and most time’s you can be so really lonely and bored too.

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  4. My parents are not divorce but I do have friends whose parents are. My friends with single parents seem to be alright but I have heard the struggle. For instance, it is true that each parent their set of rules so my friends might resonate with one parent more than the other and therefore spending more time with them. As a result, this creates even more tension and problems between the family. Despite all the struggles, my friends have all come out stronger than either. Thank you for such informative article!

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  5. Hi Russ! This has been a really useful post! I really appreciate your reflections on this topic. The main takeaway for me is what that old man that raised 3 boys told you. Spending time with our family is important and can make a huge difference.

    I remember Vito Corleone once told indirectly his son Sonny “Do you spend time with your family? Good! ‘Cause a man that doesn’t spend time with his family can never be a real man”.

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  6. Thanks so much for sharing a beautiful, informative article with us. The principal element of this article is the Facts About Single Parenting. It’s really amazing that you covered this subject so well in your post. I have learned a lot from reading your post and gained a lot of knowledge about it. I like the Loneliness of the points mentioned in your article.

    When my baby’s mother was gone, my baby was very alone. Because of the loneliness of a child, I had an adverse reaction that I realized I was giving my baby time and developing him mentally.I watched everything until my baby started to eat and sleep, which made him slowly forget his mother and create a very good friendship between us.
    I’ve read your article and enjoyed it and I’d like to share it with my friends by posting it in the Facebook community so that everyone knows about your article and gets to know it.

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  7. I can totally relate to what you are writing. I have been an alone mother for many years and I agree spending time with your children is important. It is a challenge with juggling work and children. And I can totally relate to the feeling of loneliness when they are not there. Something is just not right. Good communication with the other parent is also a huge factor in this. It is not easy for the children if they have a lot of different rules all the time. Wonderful post about being a single parent whether you are a man or a woman. I think a lot of people really can relate to what you describe in this post. 

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  8. Hello, I came across your website and your article about single parenting piqued my interest so I hope you don’t mind me reading it. Your love for your boy really came across in your article, and I’m sure that will stand you in really good stead as he grows up. Sometimes the kids weren’t at the very top of their priority list until they became single. Then all of a sudden the kids are at the very top of the priority list. Thanks for shairng.

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  9. I must say that this is really an insightful post and i am very sure that the content of this article will be of so much help to many others, just as it has greatly helped me. This is a very detailed article on some facts about single parenting. i would know more because i was raised by a single parent and i can now understand most things.

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  10. An article of this quality takes a lot of time and energy to develop especially when it has to reach out to people with useful information. i also commend the beautiful website that you have created with nice templates. i have always wondered what it is like. my sister is a single parent. the experience is something else.

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  11. I have been an alone mother for many years and I agree spending time with your children is important. It is a challenge with juggling work and children. And I can totally relate to the feeling of loneliness when they are not there. Something is just not right. I was giving my baby time and developing him mentally.I watched everything until my baby started to eat and sleep, which made him slowly forget his mother and create a very good friendship between us. Thanks for sharing.

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